There is still much lack of information when it comes to gender identity, and the major problem in this regard is that this lack of information ends up turning into prejudice, which often opens the door to transphobia, hatred of transgender.
In an attempt to end such violence - Brazil is the country where most murders occur for reasons of transphobia - it is always good to know stories of people who do not identify with their birth gender. Today we tell the story of Sona Avedian, which has long been called Matthew.
It was in November 2012 that Sona decided to carry out the treatments needed to be physically woman. For eight months, she went through hormone therapy, lost weight more than 40 kg, implanted breast implants, removed the hair from the body and has undergone some surgical procedures to complete the process.
The difference in visual Sona, when we compare your old photos with current, is gigantic. But it was not only the appearance that has changed, of course: "I had a great wife, a beautiful daughter and a well paid job," said Sona The Sun.
Although his life was traditionally heteronormative, Sona reached the point where we continue to live that way would be tantamount to burying one's identity: "During all those years, I was living a lie and I realized it was time to be true to myself ".
This notion that was different from most people arrived early to the life of Sona which for seven years liked to wear the clothes of her sister and felt good when he did that. According to her, this behavior was appointed as wrong by his mother. "I was devastated and felt very embarrassed. I knew I wanted to be a girl, but society would not allow it, "he complained.
Afraid, she never experienced the clothes of her sister, and started training basketball to fit into the stereotype of "normal kid". It turns out that not wear women's clothes did not let her unwilling to do just that, and as a teenager she began to buy women's clothing hidden - when he came home, locked himself in his room to put them.
How had mannerisms that are considered more feminine, Sona suffered enough bullying at school. When he needed to choose a profession, she joined the US Navy to precisely with the intention to force yourself to adopt a masculine image: "I made up for my feminine side myself becoming more and more masculine."
To have a look of "alpha male", as she herself has defined, Sona was doing weight training six times a week. She hoped that in this way, their desire to be a woman ended up disappearing. In the end, when his fellow Navy were not around, I always found a way to dress as a woman. So that no one discovered his secret, eventually building a "normal life."
In 2005, Sona, which was still Matthew, married a neurologist, Lucy. Sona, she did not feel sexually attracted to women, he married Lucy to try to love her as a person, and in 2010 the two had a daughter. The baby's birth brought to Sona hope that as a parent myself, would be "cured". In fact, the opposite happened, and she felt worse and worse.
"I wondered how I could be a good parent and teach my daughter on how to make an honest living and authentic while I was living a lie," she said.
The intimate life of the couple was not going very well, of course, and it was only in 2012 that Sona could tell then-wife what was going on: "We talked all night and both cried. At the end of the night, Lucy promised to support me during my journey "- when this difficult conversation took place, their daughter was only a year and a half old.
hereafter, if the treatments began, "I did not want the change was too drastic for my daughter, so I started getting dressed as a woman on top, then went letting the hair grow. She was carefree and just glad that his dad was happy. "
Lucy and Sona divorced in June 2013. By then, she worked no longer in the Navy, and finally began to feel happy, complete. Their journey, however, will only be completed when it passes through the vaginal canal construction surgery.
Lucy, who is still a friend of Sona, says she never saw her so happy as now. The release of his ex is, for her, a great source of pride and happiness, and Sona's story is now an example to many other people who still have difficulties of self-acceptance. Every success for it!
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